Wednesday, January 07, 2015

How to STOP the Resolution #Fail

Let's be honest.  It is January 7th.  One week in.  How many of you are already falling off your 2015 resolution wagon? Raise your hand, it's okay!

I have very mixed feelings about resolutions.  I certainly understand the appeal.  The catchy names are undeniable:


A New Year, A New You.  A New Year, A Fresh Start
A New Year, A Clean Slate.

Gets you pumped up, like, I CAN DO IT...THIS TIME!

BUT really...DOES the "New Year" create a "new you"?  The same joys (and troubles) you had the day before will still be there come January 1st.  Having to scratch out the last number on the end of the year for the next 3 months doesn't necessarily mean everything is going to reset itself. The willpower to change usually runs up by January 31st.

It's the same concept of starting that "diet." Does this sound familiar?
"I'll start Monday."  So Monday arrives and you do really well, eating healthy and working out hardcore - like 2 hours! (Score!)  Then Tuesday, you have that one handful of M&M's because you did well yesterday. Wednesday, you skip your workout and have a few glasses of wine after work because, well, you made it halfway through the week...and by the weekend, you are throwing back Coronas and shoveling in the pizza. (Gym, what gym?)  Oops.  "I'll start Monday."

(By the way, I hate that this sounds so cynical!)

We have created a culture of resolution failure.  And to make it worse, we beat ourselves up about it (blog about that later)....when perhaps the whole concept is just out of whack!!

Take a look at the top resolutions year after year, "Lose Weight. Get Fit. Eat Healthy."

Well, to start, those are not very S.M.A.R.T. (oh hey, where are all health & fitness peeps at?!  In case you forgot: Goals should always be Specific, Measurable, Achievable/Action, Relevant/Realistic Timely.  I tried to include the few variations I've seen out there).  But these also do not address what the person wants to feel or the emotional aspect of these resolutions.

Why do you want to lose weight?  Why do you want to get fit?  Why do you want to eat healthy? Why, Why, Why?!

As a Beachbody coach, we talk about our "WHYs" all the time.  Because at the end of the day, unless you have a WHY that drives your momentum, a WHY that centers you, a WHY that is BIGGER than yourself and your vanity, you will not be successful in the long-term.

For example, your "WHY" is not to wear a bikini this summer.  Because, ultimately, people make that resolution - give no more thought to it - and expect it to happen.  When it is a 'real feel' subzero in February, you had a rough day at work, it is dark outside, and you feel exhausted, is that bikini going to push you to go workout?  Most likely not. Perhaps the bikini is a way to measure your success...it could very well be part of your resolution...but it is NOT your why.

STOP the resolution fail by first discovering WHY you want to achieve whatever set goal/resolution you have this year.  I've seen a lot of people on social media say they don't want to use the word resolution this year because they "never work."  It doesn't matter what you call it.  Resolution, Goal, Objective...You need to DIG DEEPER! (-Shaun T <3)

Without making this a novel, I'm going to include a few more thoughts.

Break up your large goal into smaller benchmarks.  Let's say, your resolution is: "To lose 20 pounds to confidently wear my bikini on vacation in June."  Start small. Aim to workout 3x a week for the first month and eat more fruits in vegetables instead of chips and candy throughout the day.  If you mess up a day, so be it...move on to the next.  After you gain some success, add on another healthy habit. You may try to add more home-cooked meals instead of eating out at restaurants so you know exactly what goes in your food and aim for 4 workouts a week...

My point is, you don't have to be so aggressive and have an "all or nothing" mentality.  You DO NOT need to workout 5-6x a week to experience success. You DO NOT have to give up all of your favorite foods to experience success. That attitude will set you up for failure.  Small changes are good.  Excellent really.  They will become habits.  Focus on how you feel.  Focus on why you are trying to get into that bikini and you will be one step closer to flaunting it on the sand.

So after one week of 2015, take a look at those resolutions you have set (and if you haven't written them down yet, do it IMMEDIATELY!  So important to write them down and have them in front of you).  If you didn't write any, why not start today?  Hopefully you now have a few more tools to be successful! ;)